There are two relationship that have the potential to push us into poorly thought out and self-defeating behaviors. One of those relationships is parenting and the other is marriage. I see marriage as very seriously underrated in terms of difficulty level and in many cases one or both of the partners may not have ever seen a truly high functioning marriage, so some people are trying to create something they may not have had the opportunity to experience first-hand. What was the state of your parents’ marriage? Would you be willing to have the same marriage? If not, you might want to consult a specialist to help you develop the kind of mutually nurturing relationship that we are all entitled to have.